Abstract: Graph matrices encode dependencies in random matrices built from shared random variables and arise in spectral algorithms, sum-of-squares (SoS), and high-dimensional statistics. We determine how finite graph structure controls their sharp spectral growth. For every fixed simple graph shape in the dense Rademacher model, including overlapping or empty matrix boundaries, we prove $\mathbb E\|M_α\|=Θ_α(n^{(v+h-s)/2}(\log n)^{a_*/2})$, where $v$ counts vertices, $h$ isolated summation vertices, $s$ the minimum boundary-separator size, and $a_*$ maximizes an active-component count over minimum separators. Thus two finite cut optimizations determine both the polynomial and logarithmic exponents. The formula closes the polylogarithmic gap in separator bounds, and an infinite family with identical coarse parameters but different norms shows that the logarithmic exponent records genuinely new structure. The proof controls all defect layers in growing trace moments by converting label loss into separator excess; conditional flattening and synchronized fluctuations yield matching lower bounds. We extend the analysis to specified independent-factor chaoses, local weights, unequal dimensions, bounded asymmetric noise, Gaussian inputs, and fixed-degree Hermite inputs. Applications include degree-four clique SoS feasibility for $9\le k\le c\sqrt n$ without an asymptotic logarithmic loss, and Gaussian random tensor networks: deviation thresholds, sharp expected scales, entropy estimates, and, for connected loopless equal-dimensional networks, convergence of the rescaled largest output eigenvalue to the exact right edge of the limiting law. These results connect finite structure to sharp growth scales, and additional algebraic and spectral structure to full feasibility and exact limiting constants.